“Self-reconciliation” is a holistic theory of gongfu based on the manifestation of the mind noumenon, which contains the meanings of self-cultivation, morality and appreciation of harmony. The three social phenomena, “refined egoists” in college students, folk “craze for sinology” and religious revival show the spiritual status quo of Chinese citizens affected by modernity. How can the benevolence tradition of “self-remediation” balance the three contradictions reflected in the three social phenomena mentioned above and running through modernity: the contradictions between knowledge and wisdom, modern education and tradition, and the sanctity of religion and secularization? It is difficult to solve the dilemma of modernity by merely taking advantage of the Confucian theory. So the practice of Confucianism in contemporary China is indispensable in getting out of the dilemma. This paper tries to illustrate the connection between “benevolence” and Marxism, the principled critique of modernity from the three aspects of emotion, order and virtue, and to seek the ‘historical hole’ for self- reconciliation, so as to make it truly have a China mood.